Is vanilla sex starting to feel as bland as cardboard? Once hot-and-heavy bedroom action cooling to lukewarm drips? Don’t panic. You can revive the passion and bring back that exciting spark at any stage of life or relationship. Turn up the heat again through BDSM – bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism.

Define Your Interest Level

Before suggesting blindfolds and paddle play to your lover, reflect honestly on what excites YOU about kinkier sex.

Perhaps you crave…

• More intensity and unpredictability
• Freedom through voluntary power exchange
• Adventure into unexplored erotic territory
• Deeper trust and surrender
• Therapeutic escape from daily control
• Novel sensations your body craves

Get clear on why BDSM intrigues you rather than making assumptions about a partner’s interests without conversation. Great sex involves mutual enthusiasm!

Educate Yourself

Too often, mainstream media depicts BDSM through misinformed cliches involving nonconsenting pain-as-abuse without showcasing the depth of care, communication, and trust practices actually demand when done properly.

But BDSM is not just whips and chains and perversion (unless that’s precisely what you crave, then go you!). At its core, erotic power exchange involves awakening new sensations and integrating discomfort with pleasure for heightened experiences. Vulnerability meets support. Intensity amplifies connection.

Rather than believing hype or judging something as “freaky,” read up on the psychological aspects involved. Engage personal reflection on what draws you towards these unconventional expressions of eroticism and intimacy compared to society’s conditioned “norms.” Continue reading “How To Take Baby Steps Into The World Of BDSM”